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As I Began to Love Myself by Charlie Chaplin

Published on 23rd September 2019

Throughout most of my life, I struggled with deeply and completely loving myself. At the time, I believed, who I was wasn't good enough or didn't align with the description of someone who was worth loving. 

This of course led to inner turmoil and anguish because I was rejecting and denying myself. 

When I finally learnt that loving myself, was my responsibility and it had nothing to do with anyone else loving me or their ideas of what was lovable and acceptable, this changed my life forever. 

I finally stepped into my own, embracing every stage, step and version of me, no matter what it looked like.

This poem by Charlie Chaplin captures beautifully, the importance and essence of loving oneself. It is the foundation from which we show up in the world. It is the basis of the quality of life we experience. And it is what enables us to truly love others.


As I began to love myself
I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today, I know, this is Authenticity.

As I began to love myself
I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call this Respect.

As I began to love myself
I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call this Maturity.

As I began to love myself
I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at exactly right moment. So I could be calm.
Today I call this Self-Confidence.

As I began to love myself
I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call this Simplicity.

As I began to love myself
I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is Love of Oneself.

As I began to love myself
I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that is Modesty.

As I began to love myself
I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening.
Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it Fulfillment.

As I began to love myself
I recognized that my mind can disturb me, and it can make me sick.
But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I call this connection Wisdom of the Heart.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others.
Even stars collide, and out of their crashing, new worlds are born.
Today I know, this is Life!

By: Charlie Chaplin

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